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11/4/2009

I finally get it

Filed under: — Ann @ 12:05 am

… this whole social networking “thing”. I reconnected with a loooonnnggg lost friend today, after, lord, 15 years? Ever since I’ve had the tiniest inkling of how to use the internet, I’ve spent at least one or two afternoons a year searching for him. We lost track sometime in college, I think. I honestly don’t remember our last conversation, I have a vague memory of the last time I saw him in Columbus. But he’s always stayed close in my heart, someone I think about, wonder about. Someone I miss and want to talk to.

I smiled all the way home tonight after getting a reply to a fishing message I sent on Facebook. It’s Tony! Wow. I really thought I’d never find him again.

Ukrainians have a much stronger and more serious sense of the word “friend” than your average Americans do. Most Ukrainians will say they have 2, maybe 3, “friends”; everyone else is an “acquaintance”. We Americans, on the other hand, will call someone we met 30 seconds ago a “friend”. Not a bad thing, don’t get me wrong. But the only way I could think to describe Tony to Igor was that he is one of my 3-4 “Ukrainian-type friends”.

Oh, the intertubes can be so wonderful sometimes!

8/31/2009

Good times

Filed under: — Ann @ 8:16 am

Two awesome weekends in a row – woohoo!

Independence Day weekend was great, but more than we could handle. Igor and I went to the Kyiv auto market on Saturday afternoon (completely unrelated to the weekend festivities, but an interesting side adventure on its own). Not a lot going on, being a holiday weekend in late August when most of the country is on vacation at the sea. But I learned some colorful new words as we walked around among the rather tough-looking men who seem to spend a lot of time there. I tried one out and got a shocked look from Igor – will have to save them up for moments when shock factor may be needed.

We had “dinner and a movie” night at Sasha’s, where we watched the hilarious “One, Two, Three” with James Cagney. Sasha said it’s hugely popular in Germany, but none of us Americans had even heard of it. Some of the jokes haven’t survived the test of time, but for those of us who grew up during the Cold War and still sometimes find it hard to believe we now LIVE in the land of the former Evil Empire, it was a fun flick to watch.

Being the popular people that we are, Igor and I went to an Independence Day party after movie night, hosted by a Ukrainian-American woman. Igor and I find the diaspora crowd very interesting, but that really deserves its own post. The party was interesting, let’s just leave it at that for now.

Sunday we went to the Flower Festival, where different neighborhoods around Kyiv create beautiful works of horticulture art. The theme this year was Fairy Tales, and most of them were really impressive.
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This seascape, with an octopus king and little fishies, was my favorite.

But the crowds of people were really too much for us. It was difficult to move around, almost impossible to see some of the displays, and truly impossible to walk back up out of the park against the flow of people coming down into it. We scouted out an alternative route down and along the side of the hill, and ended up just below the Lavra, by the holy spring I had heard about but had never walked down to see.
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There was a lovely rose garden, and a heck of a lot less people, so we enjoyed the elbow room and a calm walk among the roses.
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Bill enjoyed the bench.
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Smart guy – we still had the hill to walk back up!
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We rounded out the day with dinner at our favorite “Sushi Ya!” restaurant, which always hits the spot. On our way home, Igor and I stopped at the grocery store for a couple of things, and were intrigued by a special display of Indonesian and Vietnamese teas. We bought a little of both and dragged our exhausted selves home to try it out. Well, it was as black and strong as espresso, and just one cup get us both wide awake until 2 am! So much for our plans to get up early on Monday to meet Bill and Eilene for the Independence Day parade. We were still asleep when Eilene called at 8:30, and although we felt really bad for bailing on our friends, we were still exhausted and also not really ready to face another immense crowd of people. Bill and Eilene stuck it out as long as they could, but I guess they eventually had enough of being pushed and shoved and stepped on, too, and left before much of the parade was underway.

We finally got up to watch the end of the parade on TV and we heard the air force jets on their fly by (which sounded quite impressive, I have to say! even though we didn’t see the actual planes, we couldn’t have missed the sound). We celebrated Ukraine’s 18th year of independence at home, quietly yet proudly.

This past weekend we celebrated another holiday – Bill’s birthday! We were delighted that he and Eilene accepted our invitation to visit Igor’s family for the weekend and to celebrate his big day in Korosten with us. Igor went up on Friday, and Dad, Bill and Eilene headed up early Saturday morning. We were greeted, as usual, by a gorgeous table with enough to feed an army. We worked hard on it, and finally we all succumbed to food comas in mid-afternoon. A round of naps was thoroughly enjoyed by all. In the evening we went to the lovely city park, which seems to have something new every time we visit. The weather was perfect, there had been lots of weddings throughout the day, and there were still many families and groups of friends picnicking, strolling, and just generally enjoying the beauty of the park. There were some new signs encouraging people not to litter, which really impressed me. I hope they have some influence!

Sunday we started the day with a visit to the Korosten market. Eilene has been wanting to buy some Korosten china, but the factory recently closed its doors for good and my beloved factory shop has closed down, too. I asked Igor’s mom is she knew anyone with a garage full of china (since the factory was notorious for paying its employees in product instead of with actual currency), but she couldn’t get ahold of anyone right then. She told Igor about a couple stands in the market that usually sell Korosten china, so we went on a mission, which quickly expanded in focus.

Dad remembered that he needed a jacket, since he’d forgotten to bring one with him on this trip. Igor took him to vendor with leather coats and in a matter of minutes Dad was the proud owner of a really sharp leather jacket. Being the full-service kind of place that it is, the vendor walked us over to the nearby seamstress, who within the hour had shortened the sleeves and resewn the buttons – total cost, coat and alternations, under $120!

Bill got a new leather wallet, Eilene got a lovely Korosten china coffee set, we both got cool baskets. Oh, and Campsey’s got a 40-liter pot to make sauerkraut and Dad got a french press so he can finally have coffee at home. All in all, a very successful trip to the market!

The only challenge was packing it all in the car with enough room left for food Igor’s parents heaped on us – bags and bags of fresh tomatoes (last of the season!), pears and apples. No surprise, we somehow managed to get it all in!

We visited Igor’s dad in the village for a few minutes, and were delighted to see a half-dozen okra plants had grown to a decent size and produced a bit of fruit. Bill and Eilene had brought the seeds at Easter time, so it was probably a bit late for planting, but nonetheless, they got a couple handfuls of okra this year, and hopefully we’ll have an even better harvest next year. The American pumpkins were true to their origins – supersized! Next item we want to introduce to Ukraine: acorn squash!

As we walked around the farm, admiring the garden and the growing animals, a little black kitten romped along with us, following us like a puppy dog. Igor’s father said she had shown up a while back and he couldn’t resist her, so he’d been feeding her, letting her inside the house and even trained her to use a litter box. She just loved everyone, purring like a fiend when I picked her up and scratched her. Ivan invited us to take her home, which thrilled me. Igor was a bit reluctant, but with the added pressure from my father and our friends, he caved pretty quickly. She was the most relaxed I’ve ever seen a cat in a car- curled right up and went to sleep for most of the 2 hour trip, purring away. Not in the least bit fazed or nervous. No crying, not even a little peep.

After dropping everyone else off, we stopped to get cat supplies, including flea shampoo, and headed home. She didn’t fuss a bit when I clipped her nails (front and back!), but of course the flea bath was more than any cat could take. But she survived it, and even seemed to enjoy the blow dry a bit. She scarfed down a full bowl of food and spent the rest of the evening curled up with us on the couch, motor running! We were starting to get nervous about whether or not she’d use her box, and so we were quite relieved when we heard her scratching around in it early in the morning. She slept with us all night, and is still curled up close to Igor snoozing away. It’s going to be hard to go to work today!

Ivan was calling her Cheetah, but we haven’t decided yet to keep that name or go with something different. She’s all black, with rusty highlights behind her ears and on the back of her neck, and she’s got one white whisker. Panther seems like the more appropriate namesake, but it doesn’t seem to be sticking either. She’s way to sweet and loving, and just the tiniest little thing, to be a panther, I think. Any suggestions?

8/21/2009

Catching up

Filed under: — Ann @ 11:54 am

My “Aha!” moment of the month was realizing there is a card reader built into my laptop – d’oh! No more excuses for not uploading my pictures because I can’t find the camera cable! So I am finally, slowly but surely, catching up on my photos to Flickr. I’ll post some highlights here eventually.

Last weekend was great. Saturday was an absolutely beautiful day and we went for a long stroll with friends Bill and Eilene, starting at the Lavra and then on to the new Holodomor (famine) monument. I had only seen it from afar, so walking up close and around the plaza I had mixed feelings. There was some controversy last year about the huge amount of money spent to build yet monument to the 1930’s famine. It wasn’t really clear why anothe rmonument was needed not very far from the simple yet elegant monument at St. Michael’s Cathedral. The new one certainly doesn’t touch me the same way. They did a really fantastic job landscaping the hill below the monument, though, with stairs and paths down connecting to the paths all along the hillside. The, honestly, impressed me much more. There are several sets of stairs going down below the monument plaza, which were roped off. We looked over the side of the plaza, down one level to kind of courtyard, where old tools and canoes and other items were strewn about. A man was working on some of them, and we went down to check it out. He snapped at us that the museum wasn’t open, the courtyard was off limits still. I translated for Bill and Eilene, and when the man heard us speaking a foreign language, he seemed to warm up a bit, or at least he stopped yelling. I asked him if the things were old, as we all looked at them closely and admired them. This really won his favor, and he got interested in telling us a bit more. He showed us the flour mill he was working on, and demonstrated how it worked by cranking the handle, which turned the millstone, and he pointed to where you would pour in the grain and where the flour would come out. He invited us to come back on opening day, August 24 (Indepedence Day), and we promised we would be there.

We continued on with our stroll, with a quick stop in the underground shopping mall at Ploschad’ Slava (Glory Square). Eilene and I found a huge box of Ukrainian motif cross-stitch patterns at the Ukrainian book store and we just went nuts! We both bought enough patterns to keep us busy for the next couple of years, I suspect, while still drolling over the beautiful patterns for shirts (which are far beyond my skills, that’s for sure). The walked continued through Marinsky Park, to European Square, past Indepedence Square, and down Khreshatyk. We ended up – tired, hungry and thirsty – at a cafe where we relaxed and did some people watching. We were looking forward to quiet evening at home.

As we were heading home later, a friend of Igor’s from Korosten called to ask where the Fortress is. Turned out he was in town for the weekend with his new girlfriend and wanted to see the place Igor has raved about so much. He tried to explain how to get there, but when Vlad called back about 10 minutes later, we realized it would be easier to just take them there ourselves. Many native Kyivans don’t even know there is a fortress right smack in the middle of the city, so we weren’t surprised when Vlad said he kept asking people where it was and no one could tell him. So we met up with them and took them to the fortress. The main exhibition hall, which has an incredibly impressive collection of Trypillian artifacts was closed for an exhibit change. We were afraid the fabulous collection would be taken away, but the ladies assured us a different exhibit was changing and the Trypillian items would still be on display. We’re curious to see what will be there next! So we suggested Vlad and friend check out the smaller exhibit hall, in a different building. We went to the little building near the exhibit halls where we’ve always bought tickets before, but were re-directed to the actual ticket booth at the entrance to the grounds. Looks like they’re getting kinda fancy, maybe even professional! So Igor and I walked over to the booth and checked out the schedule and prices. We asked for two tickets.

“No,” said the lady in the booth. “It’s too late, we’re closing.”
I paused, checked the sign again, checked my watch.
“It says the museum is open until 6. It’s only 5:10 now.”
“No, it’s too late. You won’t have time for a tour.”
“But we just want to look on our own, we don’t need a guide.”
“There’s not enough time.”
Finally Igor chimed in, tired and grumpy after our long day.
“We can manage it. We’ll be OK. Two tickets please.”

I was getting a bit slap-happy, started laughing and asked the lady if the museum doesn’t need to earn any money? There budget is OK these days? On pretty much every of the numerous occassions Igor and I have been to the fortress, we always get a lecture from the ladies about the poor state of the museum’s finances, so it just seemed utterly ridiculous that they would be turning away 2 paying customers. Then again, I’m sure she was at least partially concerned for us, that we wouldn’t get our money’s worth out of a 45-minute visit (I’ve run into this before, especially from older women,). It’s sweet that she was concerned, especially since the tickets cost 7 UAH each, less than $1. But it still makes me chuckle that the employees of a cash-strapped museum would refuse to sell someone an entrance ticket!

So we passed the tickets on, walked Vlad and friend to the door and headed again for home. His phone rings; another friend from Korosten is in town for a seminar and wants to meet. Igor (much to my guilty relief) sends me on home while he goes to meet Olga. He calls soon after and asks if it’s OK for her to come to our place, she doesn’t have a place to stay the night. Of course! So I whipped together some dinner, and having company was the perfect excuse to bake a chocolate chip cake. It was a fun evening, but man were we ever exhausted when we finally collapsed into bed!

Sunday was brunch at Arizona BBQ, always a pleasure, followed by a quick stop at a arts & crafts booth I like in the underground shopping mall at Bessarabska Square (such a great use of space in a densely packed city – go underground! Wish they’d make some parking garages that way, too). Eilene and I got some fabric and thread for our new cross-stitch patterns, and she loaded up on yarn for the hats she’s knitting for cancer patients. We finally ended up at home, blissfully vegging on the couch until bedtime. Whew!

The week has been equally busy, although with fun social stuff. Saw “District 9″ one evening – a lot more gore than I care for, but a good story line. Looking forward to the sequel (will it take 3 years to make?). Also went on a “Caribbean Cruise”, organized by the American Chamber of Commerce, along the Dnipro River. It was OK; the best part was hanging out with Igor and friends Bill and Eilene. Igor commented that there were a lot of “huntresses” on board, or “working devushkas”, as Bill put it. Dad hooked up with a couple pretty quickly and disappeared for the rest of the evening.

Igor and I are in week 2 of a “drying out” phase. We decided it was time to take a break from alcohol – too much of in the past few months, and way too many of the corresponding calories. Considering the main selling point of the Caribbean Cruise was the free “tropical” cocktails, we weren’t sure how our resolve would hold up. But we stuck to our non-alcoholic beer (which was surprisingly thoughtful of the organizers to have available!). When we got home, Igor commented, “Well, we made it through our first event without booze. Kinda boring, but we did it.” I don’t think it would have been more exciting or entertaining if we had been drinking, though. But it was a pleasant evening, something different to do.

The coming weekend will be chock full of fun stuff – Sunday is Flag Day, Monday is Independence Day, so lots of events planned throughout the long weekend. Saturday is the flower festival at the park by Rodina Mat’. Sunday is a flag-raising ceremony at Marinsky Palace. And after the parade on Monday morning, we are looking forward to checking out the new museum at the Holodomor monument.

7/7/2009

Happy Independence Day!

Filed under: — Ann @ 7:25 am

We had a great 4th of July here in Kyiv. Since it actually fell on a Saturday this year, we got to celebrate the great day on the actual day even!

We loaded up the car with friends and tons of food, met up with some other friends in their car, and proceeded to drive back and forth across Kyiv for a couple hours. That wasn’t the fun part, believe me, but it took us awhile to find an acceptable spot for our cookout. The folks in the other car wanted to go to a beach along the Dnipro River in the southwest part of Kyiv, but when we got there we were all disappointed and disgusted with the mounds of trash everywhere. Igor put it rather mildly – “not appetizing.” So we headed back across town to the forests on the northeast side of Kyiv. The spot was perfect – no one else seen or heard, almost no trash, and the added fun of getting to test our Toyota 4-Runner off road – woohoo!

The Americans cooked hamburgers, the Ukrainians cooked shashlik. Everyone ate the too-die-for brownies that Eilene made (although I noticed only the Americans were excited about the also too-die-for peanut butter cookies). We grilled fish and veggies. We had salads. And of course beer, wine, juices and other drinks galore. We played frisbee. We laughed until our sides hurt watching Bazooka the dog try to bury her stick somewhere close to China.

We dragged ourselves home late in the evening, tired and content. It was a really great day, and best of all that we could spend it with friends.

5/7/2009

Pepetichka

Filed under: — Ann @ 1:33 am

We had to put Pepette to sleep tonight. Our hearts are breaking.

About two years ago, she had her first episode of what was eventually diagnosed as “psycho cat.” The Ukrainian vets couldn’t find any known illness in their analysis, and an American vet friend told me that sometimes it just happens – for reasons veterinary science does not understand, some cats just freak out. She suddenly and violently didn’t recognize us, as if a trigger would switch in her head, and she would hiss and growl at us, as if we were invaders in her territory. That episode was, as we now understand, relatively mild and passed in about 2 weeks. But those were a long two weeks, when we didn’t know if we would find an adorable and loving cat at home, or a demon who wanted us dead.

But that passed, and slowly we started to think it had been an anomaly, some nasty effect from the drugs used at the pet salon when she was groomed. We bought an electric shaver and Igor, ever the psychologist, trained her to let us shave her ourselves, with no knock-out drugs. It wasn’t a pretty shave, but she eventually she would stand patiently still long enough for a not-too-bad shave.

About three weeks ago, the demon returned. I was traveling, and Igor told me she had attacked him, completely unexpectedly and without provocation. And not just a playful swat, or a “hey, I don’t like what you’re doing and you better back off”, but a full fledged onslaught. Over the course of that week when I was away, she flipped back and forth from normal to demon periodically and seemingly randomly. He eventually closed her up in the spare room. When I was home for about 2 days between trips, we let her out. She was jittery and didn’t seem exactly like herself, but she was more or less OK with me. She sat in my lap for awhile one evening. The next morning, though, she didn’t recognize me and hissed and growled until we corralled her into the spare room again.

I was gone another week and Igor again said she had been hell to live with. Ever the psychologist, he tried hard to understand what triggered her schizophrenic-like episodes – the telephone ringing, sudden movement, turning his back to her all seemed to result in her becoming hysterical, but other times there was no trigger he could identify. When I got home Tuesday, I felt sorry for her locked up in the spare room, I wanted to see her and pet her, and I am sorry to say I didn’t really understand the full extent of what Igor had been suffering during the weeks I was gone. I guess I thought she would be OK with me, she’s my Pepetichka after all.

We let her out and she nervously scouted the apartment. After a bit, she joined us on the balcony, but didn’t really seem able to settle down and relax. She eventually laid down in the sun, her head resting on my foot. But only for a few minutes, then she was up nervously pacing around again. She seemed to know us, though, and didn’t behave threateningly or as if we were threatening her.

Igor went inside, I started moving plants out onto the balcony for the summer. She was interested, giving all the plants a good sniff and chewed on one or two of them. The next thing I knew, she was hanging from my left arm, hysterically biting and clawing me.

I don’t want to describe or remember that part. It was awful – my darling Pepette not only did not know me, she was terrified of me and I was terrified of her. It was not her, though – there was a devil behind those eyes, not my darling Pepette.

Igor corralled her again into the spare room, we cleaned and bandaged my wounds (which turned out to be all over my left arm and on my lower left leg). We discussed what we would need to do.

Today Igor called several vets, most of whom simply asked if we wanted to euthanize her or send her to the animal shelter. He settled on the one who said “Why put her to sleep? Let’s see if we can help her.” Ruslan the vet came over this evening, while I was still at the office. Igor says it was a bad day, she never seemed to have any moments of recognition. Ruslan examined her and knew quickly that it wasn’t rabies or any other identifiable illness. His diagnosis? Psycho cat – it just happens sometimes, especially in some breeds. You can’t predict it, you can’t treat it.

We had already decided that if the vet said something like, the humanitarian thing for her and for us would be to help her die peacefully. She has been miserable, and steadily getting worse these past few weeks, unlike during the first episode 2 years ago when she was bad for a few days but then got steadily better. There were no indications that she would get better, and even if she did, we had already learned all too well that she could turn at any moment.

The vet had already administered the shot when I got home. When I saw her, she was peaceful and beautiful. I’d like to think she was herself at the very end – she had dragged herself to her litter box to vomit in it instead of on the carpet, ever the fastidious one.

It was a difficult end to a very difficult few weeks for us. She was a beautiful and adorable cat, much loved and very spoiled. I keep thinking I hear her tonight – scratching in her box, nibbling at her food bowl – and I expect to see her funny little head peak through the door, up on her tiptoes with the silly look she has when she wants you to chase her and play. Oh, how I want her back.

We miss you, my darling Pepetichka.

4/19/2009

Happy (Orthodox) Easter!

Filed under: — Ann @ 8:05 pm

Today is Easter in Ukraine, and for all Orthodox Christians. We spent the weekend in Korosten, and had a great time (as always). Our good friends Bill and Eileen joined us, which of course was a big hit with Igor’s family- fresh ears for all their stories, fresh taste buds to appreciate the fantastic cooking, and fresh hands to take a try at some preparing some traditional dishes. Bill and Eileen both love to cook, so we made a special request to Igor’s mom for a lesson on preparing pelmeni (meat dumplings) and vareniki (dumplings with non-meat fillings, we made them with potatoes this time). It was a blast.

We rented a car to make the trip easier (and because I don’t trust any public transportation on a holiday), which meant I was the designated driver and had a good excuse to not drink the requisite obsence amount of alcohol. We arrived on Saturday at lunchtime, which was fantastic and overwhelming. Eileen’s mother and step-father live on a farm, and apparently have a lot in common with Igor’s parents, so it was fun to talk about the things familiar and the things different. We went to the village house to take a basket of goodies to Igor’s father, who took it to the middle-of-the-night mass to be blessed. He’s got the whole she-bang now out there – 5 sheep (one lamb born not too long ago), 2 pigs, rabbits, chickens, and his cow recently had her first calf, a beautiful cappucino-colored little guy.

This morning, Easter Sunday, started early, as always. Igor’s father is the religious one in the family, so he went to church at 2 am. I picked him up from the village at 7 to bring him to town for the traditional big Easter meal. He’s been “fasting” (as they call it) for 40 days, which means no meat or dairy products. And he was on total fast (ie, no food at all) since Good Friday. So by the time Easter finally arrives, he is SOOO ready to eat! They had slaughtered a pig and a turkey last weekend in preparation for Easter, and the table was full with meats in various forms – multiple kinds of homemade sausages, baked turkey, potatoes baked with pork (which Eileen said was like a stew), and of course the beloved Ukrainian salo (pork fat). It’s still too early for the most vegetables, but the green onions were ready in the little greenhouse in their yard. We had lots of fabulous salads – radishes and green onions, boiled eggs with green onions, Chinese cabbage with green onions… all utterly delicious! And of course the traditional Easter eggs and Easter bread.

Today was a bit tiring for me – it’s kinda boring to be the only sober person in a group of really drunk people, but it’s exhausting to be the only translator in a multi-lingual group. I love being part of the cultural exchange, don’t get me wrong! New guests always ask interesting and different questions, and I love being part of the dialogue. But when they get all excited, and everybody wants to talk and ask questions and give answers, it’s hard to keep up and I get really tired and grumpy. I had a few moments today that I regret, when I snapped at Igor’s family and at him, but I hope they understand that it’s hard when everybody wants me to translate for them at once.

I just have to pause to say the sky is absolutely gorgeous tonight. For all the things we dislike about where we live right now, one good thing is that we are up high (10th floor) and have a fantastic view of the setting sun. It’s like a giant rainbow out of my window right now – from indigo to cranberry. Just gorgeous.

And back to the weekend. Igor’s college roommate and best friend Sasha called yesterday from the hospital to tell Igor that his daughter had just been born. Igor is godfather to Sasha’s first child, Viktor, who is about 1 1/2 years old. So we made a quick stop at yesterday to buy presents for all involved parties, namely the newborn baby and her older brother, which were delivered today after the feast in Korosten.

In short, it was a great weekend- extreme calories (although we decided any foodstuffs blessed at church were calorie-free), lots of booze, great friendships established, lots of hugs and invitations to visit again.

Tomorrow I’m off to New York for a conference. It’s a quick trip, just a week, with no visits to Ohio. But two Peace Corps friends are in New York and we’ll be celebrating Emily’s birthday together. It’s hard to believe we were last all together four years ago, in Moldova.

Speaking of which, Anya and Grisha called today to wish us a Happy Easter. Anya was again in charge of voting in Tvarditsa and with great satisfaction reported to me that the recount of her district had the same results – that is, no errors under her leaderhship. Who would have expected otherwise?!

The sun has set now, it’s been a long day with lots of adventures and impressions. I’m ready to curl up with a good book and call it a day. Tomorrow is an early start and a long day. Hard to believe I’ll be in the motherland tomorrow night…

2/15/2009

Columbus

Filed under: — Ann @ 1:24 pm

I’m in Columbus. It’s always great to be here, but overwhelming, as well. So many people I’d like to see, things I’d like to do, and even less time than usual. I’ll be here 48 hours, and since I’m physically and mentally exhausted after 9 intense days in DC, I just can’t do it all this time. I’m also missing my husband like crazy.

11/27/2008

Happy Thanksgiving!

Filed under: — Ann @ 3:25 pm

С днём благодарения!

Today is a working day for us here in Kyiv, even at a place called American Councils for International Education (we are taking Friday off, though). We’ll spend this evening with at the Campsey’s, with dad and some other Americans. This will actually be my first Thanksgiving dinner with Americans since I’ve lived in Ukraine, and it will be Igor’s first “traditional” Thanksgiving dinner – turkey and all!

I am very thankful for so many people and things. First and foremost for my wonderful husband; I couldn’t ask for a better partner in my life. I am thankful for my family – parents and siblings both by blood and by marriage. I’ve been thinking about mom a lot lately, and I am especially thankful for the last conversation I had with her 2 days before she passed away. It was an “unscheduled” phone call, I’d had an “unknown” caller on my cell phone and thought I’d better check with my parents if it had been them calling on a Thursday about something important. Nothing had happened, thank goodness, and it was a really nice conversation with just my mom. I am thankful that my last memories of her are so warm. It’s hard to believe that it’s been over three years now since I last saw her and hugged her.

I am thankful for my wonderful friends, all over the world. I am thankful for my great colleagues and a job that I love.

I am thankful for ice cube trays and tomatoes picked from the vine and homemade wine and the internet and public transportation and warm clothes and sunny beaches and my iPod (OK, my dad’s iPod until I replace the one I killed) and decaf coffee and my cat and warm fresh bread and blue cheese and podiobooks and chocolate-covered halva and so very much more.

10/19/2008

Beautiful autumn

Filed under: — Ann @ 6:41 pm

We wanted to take advantage of a few days off between jobs, and so drove to the Carpathian mountains for a long weekend last week. We took off later on Thursday than desirable (I got stuck in the office *argh*), and made it to Ternopil, about 350 kilometers from Kyiv. It was nice to have Michael with us, especially since he could share the driving with me. But neither of us felt comfortable on the dark, twisty roads, so we stopped for the night, planning for an early start on Friday morning for the remaining 200ish kilometers to Kosiv.

We did start out early, but bad roads and several wrong turns meant we didn’t make it to Kosiv until well after lunchtime. We were tired, hungry, and most of all sick of being in the car. We grabbed lunch at a koliba, a kind of rustic restaurant typical in the Carpathians. Michael had his first taste of the popular food of the region – banosh (a cornmeal dish kind of like polenta), brinza (sheep’s cheese), and the famous Carpathian mountain white mushrooms. Yum!

We then met up with Igor’s grad school friend Sveta for a hike up a hill on the edge of Kosiv. The weather was perfect, not too hot, not too cold; the hike was steep, and we were all huffing and puffing. But man did it feel good to be out in the fresh air, surrounded by quiet, and the wonderful aroma of autumn. We saw some ladies with baskets searching for those marvelous white mushrooms. We saw houses dotting the landscape in meadows and little valleys. We saw a man leading a horse up a steep mud trail, the horse struggling to pull up a huge felled tree. At the top of the path, we saw two other giant logs the horse had already lugged up; poor thing, it didn’t look easy.

At the top of the hill, panting but exhilarated, we took in the gorgeous view all around – brilliant waves of color on the surrounding mountains. This was what we had been hoping for, the beautiful autumn leaves. Michael set up his photo equipment and set to work, and Igor, Sveta and I meandered slowly back down the hill.

Dinner that night was at the fabulous trout restaurant where we ate during our visit last summer. The owners had lived in Italy for a few years and learned the art of trout farming. Their home/restaurant is tucked away, at the end of a dirt road, back between lots of other houses and completely invisible from the main road and seemingly un-distinguishable from the neighbors, until you pass through the gate and find the lovely trout pond surrounded by little gazebos and cabins. Sveta had called in advance for us, so our meals had already been plucked from the pond and well on their way in the dinner preparation process. Usually the owner lets you select your own trout from the pond. The dinner was, of course, phenomenal. We ordered a bottle of wine, only to realize a few minutes later that the owner was going to drive to the store to buy one for us, thinking we didn’t want the house wine. We didn’t know there was a house wine, and were pleasantly surprised that it wasn’t sickeningly sweet (as much Ukrainian wine is). We happily saved him a trip and enjoyed the housewine. There are no menus at this restaurant, as their daily special consists of a set meal – a big plate of cabbage salad (kind of like coleslaw), homemade white bread, and one fish per person, swimming in sour cream, with a side of banosh (the polenta-like cornmeal dish). My mouth is watering just thinking about it.

We settled down for the night in Sveta’s partially-renovated house high up on a hillside. Last year, there were just bare walls and work had just started. This year, the first and second floors are nearly complete, sans furniture, and the basement with sauna, showers, and rec room is under way. Igor and I slept upstairs, under the slanted roof with big skylights. I woke up in the middle of the night and stood in awe under the window – the bright moon illuminating the crystal clear night sky, surrounded by a billion pinpoints of light. I simply cannot describe the awesome beauty.

Saturday morning, Sveta, Michael and I were up early to hit the market. I have heard about the Kosiv market for several years now and have been burning to explore it myself. I was well-prepared, with a frightening amount of money in my purse and a strong will to make a nice contribution to the local economy.

Kosiv is the home to a famous Ukrainian artisan institute, where young people study the traditional arts and crafts, becoming modern masters of embroidery, weaving, woodworking, pysanky, and other beautiful handicrafts. I had high hopes to buy a carpet, but didn’t find one that I absolutely loved. I did find a beautiful traditional Ukrainian embroidered blouse, which I am proud to finally have in my wardrobe. I bought some patterns, as well, to try my hand at later, as well as a small painting. I could have happily spent the entire day wandering the market, admiring the thick wool blankets, the delicate woodworkings, and all the other lovely things, but alas, the rest of the group had to be appeased, as well. They seemed to have the crazy notion that shopping was not the single purpose of our trip.

After a quick lunch, Michael took the wheel and had the pleasure of being a passenger for a leisurely drive through the twisty mountain roads. The views were breathtaking every where, the mountains covered in brilliant carpets of bright colors – yellow, gold, red, orange, and still some greens. We stopped a couple times for Michael to take some photos.

There was severe flooding throughout the Carpathians this past summer, and we saw the massive construction efforts under way everywhere as part of the recovery. Sveta told us that 150 bridges had been destroyed in one day. There were still several treacherous spots along the narrow roads, but mostly we were quite impressed with progress made in just a couple of months. Temporary bridges were up everywhere, and new, sounder bridges were well along in the construction process.

We arrived at the highest peak in the Ukrainian Carpathians, Horvela. We had hiked nearly to the top last year, and Igor was anxious to show Michael the wonderful view. I opted to wait below while the three of them hiked up, again nearly to the apex but not venturing the last 150 steep, rocky meters. One of these days we’ll do it.

We marveled at the sunset as we drove back to Kosiv, and stopped after dark at a great little koliba for dinner – again, banosh, white mushrooms, and this time shashliki for the carnivores. Once back at Sveta’s, we were exhausted yet absolutely satisfied. Sad only that we didn’t have another couple of days to relax in the mountains.

Sunday morning was another early start. We planned a different route home, passing through Khotyn and Kamianets-Podolsky with plans to stop and see the fortresses. While still within the mountains, though, two churches caught our attention and we stopped. On one side of the street, a tall, bare, stone abandoned church, Catholic maybe; on the other side of the street, a lively, colorful wooden church with tin roof, ornamented and detailed, receiving the villagers for Sunday mass. We walked around the abandoned church first, peaking through the crack in the wooden front door. Igor picked at the stone and brick facade and declared it 17th century. The inside was stripped bare, cold and dark with thin streams of light cascading down through cracks and holes.

The other church couldn’t have been more opposite – within a low fence, the surrounding grass was still bright green, the bushes and flowers full and colorful. The pathway clean and well-maintained. We noticed the woman, all in skirts with covered heads, entering through the front door, while most of the men walked around to the right side to an entrance we couldn’t see. Igor later commented that he has heard of some mountain congregations that have separate areas for men and women, but we were confused that a few of the men entered the same door we went in through, where all the women entered. We also saw another side door which 3 women were standing just outside of, their heads leaning in through the open doorway. “Do you know why they are standing there?” Igor asked me. I hazarded a guess, “That time of the month?” Yep. Menstruating women aren’t supposed to enter the church, and apparently these ladies still wanted to participate as much as was allowable. I’ll never understand believing in a church (or any other organization or person) that thinks you are lessor, for any reason, but especially for a completely natural and normal process. It just boggles my mind.

I covered my head with my scarf, feeling self-conscious in my grungy jeans and tennis shoes. We would have clearly stood out as strangers even if dressed appropriately, in such a small village where everyone knows each other. We were greeted with curious stares and, much to my relief, warm smiles. I couldn’t help notice the din of whispers as the congregation became aware of our presence in the back of the church. One woman smiled and motioned forward with her hand, encouraging us to move in further.

The very back of the church, where we had entered, had a low ceiling, which blocked the view into the small but tall main chamber of the church. At first glance, it looked like most any other Orthodox church, with the iconstasis, icons, candles, etc. My first shock though was to see benches – not just a couple along the side walls for the extreme elderly or disabled, but ROWS of benches, from the back to the front of the church. I have never seen benches, or any other instrument for sitting, in an Orthodox church in Ukraine or Russia. They just don’t do that.

The second shock, more amusing, came into view as I walked along the center aisle and more of the main hall came into view. There was a bright neon icon, with flashing lights all around it. It was one of the gaudiest things I’ve ever seen! And seemed so absurd in the church. I had a good chuckle just looking at it.

We continued our trip, which went much slower than we had expected (what else is new? We should know by now that ever road trip in Ukraine takes twice as long as we anticipate). We made it to Khotyn by about noon, and decided to stop for about 30 minutes to see the famous fortress. The setting is really beautiful, as you walk from the parking lot, crest the hill, and look out across the fortress with the Dneister river flowing by. There was a lot of work being done on the fortress, and Igor commented that we should come back in 3 years. We still managed to explore the area for over an hour, and really enjoyed the site. But we sacrificed the stop at Kamianets-Podolsky, even though Igor said it’s in better condition. We were hours behind in our travel schedule, and not looking forward to the long long drive still ahead.

We made it to about 30 kilometers outside Kyiv before the hellish traffic jams started, about 7:00 pm. Three hours later, we finally dragged ourselves up the stairs to our apartment, exhausted. It was a hard trip, definitely too short, but I’m so glad we did it. An autumn visit to the mountains will most certainly become an annual trip for us.

10/8/2008

A great Igor’s birthday

Filed under: — Ann @ 10:26 pm

Igor’s birthday celebrations lasted nearly as long as our wedding celebrations. After our own celebrations on Thursday, we went to Korosten for the weekend, and 2 more days of fun.

Friday night with spent with friends at Anatoliy’s farm outside Korosten. I drove up after work, while Igor had come earlier in the day by bus. It was clear I was a more than a bit behind in the celebrations, but since I was driving, my fun was limited to the fabulous food. It’s not so fun to be sober amongst a bunch of drunk people, but I still managed to have a good time until about 11, when I’d had enough. We finally made it home close to 1 a.m.

Saturday we took Igor’s family to the awesome pizzeria. The owner lived for awhile in Italy and learned the art of pizza-making there, and has even built a special clay pizza oven. Actual Italians have told me it’s awesome pizza, and considering it’s the only decent restaurant in Korosten, it’s always our place of choice for any time we eat out. Good food and good times were had by all.

We noticed an odd and disturbing theme in Igor’s presents this year – a sake set, a flask with matching shot glasses, and a set of 6 malachite shot glasses. By the time he opened the third alcohol-oriented present, Igor was starting to worry that he might be an alcoholic (or at least his friends seem to think he’s a drunk). We now have enough booze sets to open a bar, I think. Is this a bad thing? Maybe not! But I’m glad I didn’t buy him the martini shaker and glasses. Those can wait until next year.

Our buddy Michael came up to Korosten Saturday afternoon, and we drove to the nearby forest so Michael could fulfill a long-time fantasy of mushroom gathering. I thankfully waited in the car while Igor, his parents and Michael tromped through the forest hunting the little fungi for a couple hours. My punishment came when we got home, when several bags of mushrooms were deposited before me for cleaning. Michael, anxious for the “full experience”, happily pitched in, and Igor, probably out of guilt, sat down to work too. In an hour or so, we had a big bucket of gorgeous mushrooms ready for cooking! And yuuuuummm, were they ever tasty. We had enough that we brought a bag back to Kyiv with us, and Igor added them to a fabulous pot of borscht that he whipped up. Yummy.

Sunday we hit the Korosten market, looking for a few bargains. Michael, photographer that he is, staked out the bus stop and photographed and talked up folks for a couple of hours. We finally headed back to Kyiv, Michael trying his hand at driving in Ukraine. He did well, but wasn’t ready for Kyiv traffic. But we made it home safe and sound.

All in all, a great, long and fun celebration of Igor’s birthday. Next weekend we head off to the Carpathian mountains. I hope the leaves haven’t all fallen yet!

10/2/2008

Happy Birthday Igor!

Filed under: — Ann @ 10:28 am

We started the multi-day celebrations of my darling husband’s birthday today. We were awoken at 7:15 by some friends calling to wish him a Happy Birthday – we are both accustomed to the fact that there is no sleeping in on your birthday! That was just the first of a slew of calls he will get all day long from friends, relatives, and colleagues.

We’ll be in Korosten for the weekend, celebrating Friday night with friends, Saturday with family. Sunday Igor is taking Michael to the forest for mushroom hunting. I, happily, can finally be excused from this activity. I just don’t get any thrill out of it, but Igor, his parents, and millions of Ukrainians anxiously await mushroom season and gleefully spend hours skulking through the forests in search of mushrooms. Me? I think it’s hot, uncomfortable, boring, and an endless battle against mosquitoes. Of course I’m more than happy to help with the eating of the delicious mushrooms! That’s more my kind of sport.

I didn’t manage to get his birthday present here in time to give him today (a digital camera ordered from the US), so today he got a new camera bag with a lovely picture of his soon-to-be camera. :-) When I left for work this morning, he was already scouring websites to learn all about his new toy. It should be here in a couple of weeks, when a friend comes back to Kyiv. Nothing like a bit of anticipation!

So, my darling – З днем народження!

9/24/2008

Man, those earrings are working!

Filed under: — Ann @ 9:56 pm

The car is perfectly fine; well, not exactly but nothing is wrong with the brakes. The endless rain leaked into something and caused a short in the wiring that caused the brake warning light to come on. The mechanic apparently took me quite literally when I said “seal up” the leaky sunroof – he taped the roof with masking tape. It looks so bad, I have to laugh. At least I know that won’t last long.

Michael arrived last night, and Igor is playing with all his fancy photography equipment this evening (Michael’s a professional photographer).

We launched our new Youth Social Inclusion project yesterday – hrtrrah! It’s on our UNV website and the Ministry of Family, Youth and Sport. It’s taken nearly a year to get to this point, but we did it! And now for the hard part – actually putting the work plan into action!

9/13/2008

Weekend plans

Filed under: — Ann @ 9:37 am

The heat wave is officially over - and it’s freaking cold! The cat suddenly is interested in my company now that she’s cold – normally she tolerates us only because of our ability to open the refrigerator and spoon canned food into her bowl. But when she’s cold she becomes the nicest of lap cats.

Igor went to Korosten yesterday, and I’ll join him today. The car is in the shop because the motor burned out, leaving us without windshield wipers. It came as no surprise that they couldn’t find a new or used motor for our 1984 BMW, so they’re trying to repair our motor. Hopefully it won’t cost an arm and a leg, since the car itself is barely worth an arm, or a leg for that matter.

So I’ll be taking the bus to Korosten, something I haven’t done in quite a while. And for once I’m not too upset about that, maybe even a little bit glad ’cause it means I can work on my embroidery while someone else does the driving! I’m about half way done with my first cross-stitch. It’s got quite a few mistakes in it, but I’m plugging along. One important thing I learned is to not try to do it at 1:00 in the morning when I’m exhausted but can’t sleep – I ended up redoing the same little area about 5 times before I finally got it right. I couldn’t resist buying my next pattern yesterday. It’s got six colors (up from three with my first pattern), and involves two types of stitches, so it will be a challenge for me. But it’s relatively small, so I think it won’t be overwhelming. I looked again at the traditional Ukrainian patterns, for the ceremonial towels and shirts and things, but they are still way too intimidating. It’s fun to have something to work towards, though.

Speaking of goals – I went to Buffalo Expatriate’s farewell get-together last night (she’s moving back to the States). She’s been working with the International Organization for Migration, and doing research on trafficking and related issues. There was such an awesome, interesting diverse group of people at the bar. We went around the table introducing ourselves, with most people saying the usual “My name is…, I work/study at…”. One young Nigerian man introduced himself and said “I am going to the be president of Nigeria some day.” Talk about having goals!

But back to this weekend. Igor’s godson turned one this past week, and today is his birthday party. What do you wear to a first birthday party? I don’t think that this will be like an American baby’s birthday party, with lots of other kids crawling around and parents swapping parenting stories. I suspect this will be like most other Ukrainian celebrations – adult family and friends squeezed around a table overflowing with food, which will keep coming until long after you can’t eat another bite, and plenty of drinking and toasting. This would be the down-side of not having the car this weekend, as it’s always a great excuse for me to pass on the vodka shots when I’m “behind the wheel”. Maybe I’ll use the “I’m taking some medicine right now” excuse; that one usually works pretty well, too.

I guess it’s time to get myself together and head out to the bus station. Can’t wait to get to work on my cross-stitch!

9/10/2008

Honk and wail with the best of them, my friend

Filed under: — Ann @ 10:33 am

It’s a hard way to start the day, reading emails about a high school friend who passed away yesterday. I haven’t seen Brian since college, but I remember him very fondly.

He was a founding member of the fabulous band Honk, Wail and Moan.

Brian, the music just got better up there. Show them how to jam!

7/25/2008

Joy

Filed under: — Ann @ 9:35 am

I had a lovely birthday. Lots of nice phone calls and electronic warm wishes from friends near and far. In Ukraine, the birthday person is supposed to bring sweets in for colleagues, and I decided to bake a big batch of muffins Wednesday night to take to the office on Thursday. We had fresh wild blueberries and sour cherries that we’d brought back from Korosten, so I whipped up a couple batches. With only one muffin tin that bakes 6 muffins at a time, it quickly became clear to me that it was not going to be a quick endeavor. 3 hours later, I’d had enough of the hot kitchen and called it quits. Dad sneaked a couple muffins, but most of them made it to the office on Thursday. They were quite a hit, and once word spread throughout the office, it was a great incentive for folks to come visit us up on the third floor.

I was sporting the absolutely beautiful bracelet that Igor gave me – citrons and blue topaz, to go with the presents of the last 2 birthdays, a blue topaz necklace and blue topaz earrings. The set is complete! Dad bought me the cell phone I’ve been coveting for ages. My colleague Anna gave me a really cool cookbook, with Ukrainian recipes in both Russian and English, and the most beautiful, appetizing photos!

I told Igor I didn’t want to do anything fancy this year, no evening out, nobody over, just me and my guys at home. The sweeties that they are, Igor and Dad had a cake with candles waiting for me when I got home and they sang “Happy Birthday.” Igor cooked a fabulous meal (as always). I had requested zucchini pancakes (like potato pancakes, only made with the zucchini). Being the creative overachiever that he is, he made up an entirely new recipe and combined all kinds of vegetables for the pancakes – beets, carrots, zucchini, etc. They were both pretty and delicious!

After dinner, Igor did the most beautiful thing. He told Dad that in the Far East they have a tradition that a husband who is happy with his wife gives gold to his father-in-law. Igor said “I am very happy with Ann, and I want to thank you.” He gave Dad a gold ring, which fit perfectly on Dad’s little finger. Dad got a bit misty-eyed, and finally said “I don’t know what to say.”

I can hardly believe sometimes that this amazing and wonderful man is my husband, that I get to live with him the rest of my life. What pure joy!

7/8/2008

Happiness

Filed under: — Ann @ 6:10 pm

Isn’t it funny how something wonderful comes along right when you need it? Like the great news I got last night after my depressing funk about maniac drivers.

Petya and Marina got married!!!

Dad picked them up on Sunday and brought them back to Columbus, where they will live for the rest of their summer Work and Travel program. He took them to the courthouse Monday morning to find if they could get married in the US, and if so how. Turned out the answer was Yes and they could do it right away! I am so so happy for them.

We will also be sharing in another wonderful happy moment this weekend – Igor’s cousin Andrei is finally marrying his girlfriend of many years, Natasha. Andrei was best man at our wedding. They will have the civil ceremony on Saturday (just them and the witnesses), with the church wedding and small party on Sunday. We are honored to be included among the few people who get to share this important day in their lives with them.

Nothing like a wedding to make you feel positive again.

7/6/2008

Blur

Filed under: — Ann @ 10:37 pm

The past week is a blur. I remember the major outline, but the details are lost. We landed in Kyiv Monday morning and I was in the office by lunchtime. I finally stumbled home about 9pm, after several meetings to confirm plans for the regional workshop we were hosting in Kyiv, with about 40 people attending from all over Eastern Europe and the CIS, 1-3 July. I changed our vacation plans to be in Kyiv for this workshop, and although I really hate that we missed 4th of July in Columbus, it was important to be here for this event, even if I wasn’t anywhere near my best for most of it.

Tuesday morning Igor and I were both wide awake at 4:00 am, and finally decided to get up and go to the grocery store around 4:30. First time we’ve never had to wait in line there! I was at the workshop early, and had a long spacey day. Despite being exhausted all day, I suddenly was wide awake once I got home and couldn’t sleep hardly all night. Wednesday was similar, but I really wanted to visit with my UNV colleagues so I pushed through a long evening and had some friends over for dinner. The workshop wrapped up on Thursday, and we had a nice reception in the evening for everyone. I regretted leaving early, but I was near dead from exhaustion.

Friday we had an important meeting with the Ministry of Family, Youth and Sport about a project I’ve been developing for most of the past year. The project was approved! Just need to finalize the financing, which should happen next week. So, I could finally relax Friday afternoon. I met up with a couple UNV colleagues for a quick beer.

For the first time in 3 years, I was invited to the big Independence Day party at the American Ambassador’s residence. Although I was still really pooped, and was hosting a colleague overnight in Kyiv, I felt I just couldn’t pass up the invitation. It was a fun event, and I enjoyed spending a couple hours with American friends and making some new acquaintances. After that party, I met up with some UNV colleagues for a late night. We stumbled home around 1 am (I think) and collapsed.

Igor went to Korosten on Tuesday, planning to be there a day or two, but that turned into the whole week. After seeing my UNV colleagues off to the airport, I drove to Korosten to finally visit with his family and friends. I had really been looking forward to listening to Igor tell everyone about our trip to the US. I love to listen to him tell stories, for one thing, but also I learn a lot more about his impressions and perceptions when he tells other people about what we’ve done and where we’ve been. Unfortunately, I missed most of his stories this time since he’d been there a week and seen most everybody by the time I got to Korosten. I did hear a couple stories, though – like how awesome Niagara Falls are, and that Ohio is a great place for retirement ’cause everything is set up for comfort (drive-thru banking, drive-up drop off for the library, etc). Igor was also immensely impressed with the vast array of gardening tools my Dad has – a tool for every task, he said.

We had dinner with Igor’s family, then rushed off to meet up with some friends who were waiting for us at their dacha outside Korosten. I was driving, which meant I didn’t have quite as much fun as everyone else, but I honestly didn’t mind the excuse to not have to drink vodka. Time to dry out for a bit.

We slept like the dead Saturday night, and for the first time in weeks I felt like I had a full night’s sleep. We woke up at 9:30 – jumped up is more like it, since we had an appointment at 10. Neither of us could believe we’d slept for over 10 hours! After running some errands, we spent an hour or so picking raspberries and blueberries in the yard – yum! There are still some cherries on the trees, but we decided to pass this time. Igor’s mom made a fabulous spread for lunch (as usual), with the highlight being vareniki (dumplings) with cherries, blueberries and mullberries. We stopped by Igor’s college roommate’s house on the way to Kyiv to visit them and Igor’s godson, and of course a “quick stop” turned into an hour and a half and another bursting table of goodies. We finally made it home around 7:30. The first time in nearly a month when we are home alone, and what do we do? I start the laundry and he starts scrapping the ice out of our crappy freezer – the things that desperately need to get done but we haven’t had time to do for ages. Finally we settle down, open a bottle of wine, and he’s watching boxing while I catch up on my blog.

It hardly seems like we were in Columbus just a week ago.

7/1/2008

And just like that,

Filed under: — Ann @ 7:43 am

two weeks have flown by.

We spent 2 days last week with my Moldovan friend Petya and his girlfriend Marina. Petya lived in Tvarditsa, and was my good friend and walking buddy in the village. He’s studying at a university not far from Moscow now, and met there the love of his life, Marina, who ironically grew up in a village not far from Tvarditsa. They had to go to university in Russia to meet each other! They are spending the summer on a Work and Travel program, and managed to get jobs in Ohio working concessions on the fair circuit. Not glamorous work, but they are getting quite the tour of small town America. We picked them up last Sunday and brought them to Columbus for the night. How strange and wonderful to meet my Tvarditsa friend in my hometown! We had a really good time with them.

Tuesday we took a long walk through the neighborhood, bought Igor an album for his growing collection of state quarters, and bought him a couple of buffalo steaks. It was a beautiful day, and we enjoyed admiring the lovely yards everywhere. We sat in a little park for a break, and to look through Igor’s growing collection of state quarters. Man, those things were getting heavy to be carrying around! Later in the week we found an album for him, and I thought it was going to be permanently attached to him. We were down to five missing quarters as of Saturday afternoon – which included 3 quarters that haven’t been minted yet, or at least that’s what I thought. That little genius Tyler showed at Dad’s birthday party with THREE of the missing quarters – including Arizona, which we didn’t know was available! So Igor brought back a near-complete set of state quarters, and next year we’ll have a good time finishing it up with Alaska and Hawaii.

Later in the day, Igor and Dad did a lot of yard work, while Tyler and I worked inside the house. She got an urge to bake, or more preciously she got an urge to eat sugar cookies so we baked a big batch of them, plus a pan of brownies. Yum!

In the early evening we went to the pool and we could finally make use of our new bathing suits. In Ukraine, all the women – no matter what age, no matter how big – all wear two-piece bathing suits. And the men all wear little Speedo-like things. I was very uncomfortable the first few times I went to beaches here, not being used to seeing so much skin and sometimes “too much information.” But after a bit I started to feel uncomfortable because I felt like I stuck out being the only person in a one-piece bathing suit. After one of my trips home I brought back with me the two-piece I bought at the peak of my Weight Watchers success, when I was feeling really great about my body. I had worn it maybe once or twice in the US but always felt self-conscious. Here in Ukraine, even with 15 pounds of weight regained, I feel really comfortable in my two-piece. And it’s so nice to be around people who don’t have so many body-image hang-ups, at least not on the beach. But as we planned for this trip to the US, I told Igor that I needed to get a new, one-piece bathing suit. He was really confused, and none of my attempts to explain why I just cannot wear a two-piece in the US seemed to help him. The matter was made even worse when I told him that he would have to get a new bathing suit, too, because he would not be able to wear his Speedo-like suit, at least not in Columbus. I think he thought I was kidding until I told him that I heard on an NPR podcast that a man was fined in Florida for wearing a Speedo (granted, I heard it on “Wait! Wait! Don’t Tell Me!”, which happens to be my main source of news these days). So our first day in Columbus he bought an “American” bathing suit, which he proceeded to wear as shorts for the next two weeks. When we finally went swimming Tuesday evening, he hated it – hated the feel of the shorts in the water, the way the poofed up, and he kept feeling like they were going to fall off.

Wednesday I saw “Sex and the City” with Cheria. Awesome movie! Thursday we drove down to Athens to visit Jenny and her family. I always forget how beautiful southern Ohio is, and Igor enjoyed the scenery as much as I did. Friday morning we got up early and drove west to Serpent Mound. It wasn’t as big as we had expected, but then again, after Niagara Falls nothing seems particularly big. Some of the Ohio Indian mounds are to be added to the UNESCO World Heritage Sites list, and since they are really special and unique, I thought it would be cool to visit them with Igor. We then took a leisurely drive along country roads back up to Columbus, stopping at a couple other state parks along the way. We also stopped at an Amish store, and Igor was thrilled to see some Amish people – “The only Americans who live like Ukrainians,” he said.

Friday night was a fabulous dinner at Madeleine and Dick’s with family and friends. Saturday morning we packed, which wasn’t nearly as bad as we’d expected. I should have brought another person along with me ages ago! The extra two bags made such a huge difference. :-)

And then Saturday evening was Dad’s really nice birthday party. Lots of his friends and neighbors. And at the end of the evening he decided to crack open a 17-year old bottle of Armenia cognac he’s been saving for years. Wow, was it every awesome!

Sunday morning came much too quickly. Dad made his famous pancakes, and Scott, Carina, Tayler and Tyle r came over to visit a few more minutes with us. Cheria and Jahi met us at the airport for final goodbyes.

We are both so full of impressions, both of us still sorting them out. I was so happy when Igor said he’d really enjoyed the trip, everything we did and everyone we met. I enjoyed the washer and dryer, and having clothes cleaned and dried in under 90 minutes. We both enjoyed the convenience and ease of everything. We took Petya to the bank to open an account, and as we left he told me he couldn’t believe how nice the banker was – “They would never be nice to you in Russian,” he said. Yes, customer service is pretty darn good in the U.S. I like being able to pay everywhere with my debit card, but it’s also nice to use cash and never had problems getting change- never once did anyone yell at me to dig in my purse for coins because there wasn’t enough change in the till or the cashier didn’t want to be bothered counting out change. I love the ease and ability to recycle (it’s so painful to put paper in the trash can in Ukraine!).

There were some not-so-great things too. The fruits and vegetables taste like crap, there’s just no other word for it. Fresh Ukrainian produce beats the US hands-down. I missed having a beer during a leisurely walk on a hot day. Heck, I missed walking! Too much driving in the US. I was embarrassed by the number of just down right huge people that Igor noticed and pointed out to me. He was especially shocked to see obese people on their motorized chairs in the grocery store. He was also floored when I told him we couldn’t just go to the pharmacy and buy some antibiotics for his sinus infection, that instead it would involve a doctor’s appointment and a prescription.

Overall though, it was a wonderful two weeks. Lots of good times, lots of good food; great friends, great family. That’s what it’s all really about.

6/22/2008

Having fun

Filed under: — Ann @ 5:30 pm

We’re having a great time being here. Niagara Falls was truly spectacular. On Tuesday we rode the Maid of the Mist and did the Caves of the Wind walk under the falls. It was so fun to see the look on Igor’s face – so thrilled to be there, so in awe.

Wednesday we took my nieces to Ohio State and walked around campus, visiting friends in different buildings. Thursday we drove to Ft. Wayne to visit Tanya, and we came back to Columbus on Friday in time for an evening at Club Diversity with chocolate martinis. Saturday was another Eddie Bauer Warehouse excursion, followed by a fabulous cook-out at Scott and Carina’s house. Even a thunderstorm couldn’t stop us from having a great time!

Food fantasies indulged:
Igor – steak, steak and more steak. He bought the biggest hunks of meat I have ever seen. One guy at the cook-out stopped dead in his tracks by the grill and said “What is that? Is that meat?”
Ann – chocolate martinis (Igor loved them too), Mike’s Hard Pomegranate Lemonade, more chips and salsa and various yummy dips.

We had brought a bottle of balsam from Crimea to share at the cookout. It’s a kind of liquor, made from something like 27 different herbs, and is supposed to be good for your health. You can put it in tea, or mix it with vodka. Igor was a hit at the cookout making cocktails for everyone to try the balsam and vodka. After one small drink, my 6′6″ brother stood up and said “Holy cow, I’ve got a buzz! What the heck is in that?” Somehow in our explanations of how great it is for you, we must have forgotten to point out it’s 80 proof, so mixed with vodka it’s a damn strong drink! Lots of people asked where they could buy it, but I doubt it’s sold here.

Igor’s playing Wii with the twins now. So funny.

6/18/2008

US adventures continue

Filed under: — Ann @ 5:47 pm

We had a FANTASTIC time at Niagara Falls. We rode the Maid of the Mist, did the Cave of the Winds tour, and filled the camera memory card in less than 4 hours. I’ll post more photos later. We also drove up to Lake Ontario to Fort Niagara, which was really cool.

More food fantasies were indulged.
Igor: steak, yam (first one in his life), more Guinness beer, bacon.
Ann: Ceasar salads (2), pomegranate martini, tiny little burrito-like things that were fried (brilliant!), salt water taffy (bought it, haven’t eaten it yet), Morningstar soy-sausage breakfast patties, English muffins (about 8), more chips and salsa.

After looking at me in my cute new Eddie Bauer clothes for 3 days, Igor admitted he’s ready to go back to the warehouse store and actually look for himself now. I’ve converted him!

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